Again, I have to apologize for not writing anything in a while. Apparently, some issues took over my time. Yet, thanks to those issues, I am now writing on the next subject: friends.
How did I come to write about friends now? Well, the answer is quite simple. There are times when I realize that I am overly friendly with people around me and I rush into calling them my friends, when, in fact, they are still some strangers, or actually acquaintances. It seems that I never learn my lesson and that I still keep giving everyone more than they deserve. A lot more.
Anyway, these past few days I discovered that while I thought I knew someone well enough to at least call him a friend, the truth was that I, in fact, didn’t. Losing a friend, or discovering that you were actually wrong in believing that someone is your friend, is always painful.
In my case, I was stupefied to learn that this person I am talking about doesn’t actually know what a friend is. What he is mostly doing is this: he confuses a friend for an acquaintance.
What is a friend?
A friend is an Angel in disguise. Friends are rare to find nowadays. They are our precious jewels. Friends are not only the people we share ideas and common interests with, but also those creatures who show us how much they care about us. Friends are those who give us their full support when we need it and those who scold us, when we do something wrong.
Yes, a friend is someone you can share a lot of things with, but you should never forget that a friend is someone who also cares deeply for you and who, no matter what happens, will stay by your side and will do his/her best to help you out, when you are in need. Also, a friend is the one who is also there with you during the happy times.
Friendship doesn’t only relate to keeping each other company during the lonely periods of the day. Friendship is based on feelings. Superficial things such as a common passion and the fact that you can see someone or the fact that you like their appearance doesn’t turn your relationship with that person into friendship. Not at all.
Having friends in cyberspace has become pretty common nowadays. Wherever you look, whoever you ask, you will notice the same phenomenon taking place. Through social media, we meet others who are more or less like us. From sharing the same passion to having the same views on world and even similar personalities.
Social media made things easier for us. In a way.
The Internet allowed us to meet with people from miles away, to befriend them and learn so much more about their world and about ourselves as well. Even though it’s full of dangers, Internet is still a good way of discovering new worlds and new friends.
The temptation remains. Mistaking friends for strangers and mistaking friends for acquaintances is an easy thing to do.
However, you can still tell apart who is your friend there and who isn’t. Take Facebook, for example. Most people just add a bunch of others only to increase the number of their friends. But then again, there are also people who actually look for real friends. Just because it happens in cyberspace, it doesn’t mean that it isn’t true.
It doesn’t even matter if you can see how the person looks like, or how they sound like. All that matters is the connection between you and them, the significance. Even if there is a great difference separating you, the trust that bonds you together, the mutual feelings of care and all of the other little superficial things, such as passions, will tie you together forever.
Not to mention that sometimes, those people who are far away from us care for us more than those who are closer, or even at a step away from us.
Well, I will end this post here, for the moment, since I am somewhat tired and I need some rest (hopefully this made sense).
Until the next time.
PS: This was reposted from my old blog on Blogger.